Presence allows me to stay balanced and not get “hooked” by either partner or by the relationship dynamic. This means you have a clear, wise, experienced mind and heart on the job. My capacity for regulation in the face of intense emotion provides both a modelling for partners, and also a steadying and holding effect necessary for change to occur.
Discernment allows me to see beneath the chaos at the surface (the content of the repetitive arguments that never resolve) to the deeper currents directing you from the depths (the nexus of the power struggle). Working at this deeper level allows lasting shifts, not temporary patches.
Developmental assists mean that I can spot what’s not working AND guide you towards new behaviors that will allow relationship maturation. Every relationship will encounter times of extreme challenge and my expertise will allow you to grow your way through these impasses.
Relationship skill can be learned.