Intensive themes

Getting Your Sexy on
In times of duress, sexual aliveness often wanes or extinguishes, often despite many attempts to keep it alight. This intensive gets up close and personal with the impediments and developmental impasses that block sexual vitality, authentic physical connection, and resonant emotional bonding.  Partners will be guided through explicit discussion and supported to express feelings and state desires in order to transcend themes of avoidance, shame, blame or uncertainty that inhibit healthy attachment, desire and passion.

Affair Repair 
Affairs are one of the most significant betrayals and often leave trust shattered and emotions blazing. Due to the intensity of the feelings for both parties, many couples lack the skills to process the deep wounding of an affair.  Years pass and the pain becomes entrenched and leaks in toxic ways to undermine even the good things that the couple once shared. This focused intensive explores:

  • The underlying issues in the relationship
  • The individual developmental stalemates that led to the infidelity
  • A full repair and the ingredients of trustworthiness
  • The ingredients of genuine forgiveness
  • The re-establishment of intimate connection and calculated risk of engaging emotionally again.

Affair-Proof Your Bond
There are many factors which increase the risk of affairs:  Some exist within partners (personality and history), some exist between partners (your dynamic and relational habits) and some exist around you (alcohol, social mores).  Learn the skills necessary to identify your risk matrix of the thoughts, feelings, actions and inactions that leave you at risk of “straying”.  There are very clear patterns of communication that frequently result in infidelity, and they can be modified once identified.

No Stone Unturned  
For couples who know that they are on the brink of separation but do not want to lose each other, this is an opportunity to go deeply into the ambivalence and issues, assess each partner’s contributions to the marital impasse, explore levels of motivation to work through the dynamics, and learn the therapist’s assessment regarding the severity of the marital problems and potential next steps if appropriate. The ultimate decision to end the relationship rests with the partners, but it can sometimes be helpful to hear an professional, objective view.

The Spiritual Journey for Couples
To develop more conscious relationships requires becoming conversant with how three different dimensions of human existence play out within them: ego, person, and being. Every close relationship involves these three levels of interaction that two partners cycle through— ego to ego, person to person, and being to being. If you long to engage each other more from your spacious, cherishing heart and give less of your relationship to the survival mechanisms of the ego, this Intensive will liberate the very best within and between you.